I know what a man looks like. I know what love, loyalty, and commitment looks like.

He taught me nearly everything I know. He taught me to be strong, to be articulate, and to be smart. He taught me to be kind. He taught not to be a punk, and to stand up for myself.

I could go on and on, but at the end of the day, I’m grateful for a father who took full responsibility for his family; especially since he did not have that example. He’s set the standard very high, and I can’t thank him enough.

Also, to my late grandfather Robert “Dear” Span, Sr., we love and miss you. Thank you for the wonderful example you showed me and my mother. He took in and helped raise my mother. It takes an extraordinary man to assume responsibility for someone else’s child. You showed my mother what a real man was, and she didn’t stop until she found one like you- my father. You were wonderful to me, and made me feel infinitely special.  Miss you all the time.

To those who haven’t had an active father, I pray for healing for you. I pray that any anger and resentment be removed, and that you can find it in your heart to forgive. It’s not easy being a man. It’s not easy being a father. You may never understand, but I hope you do find peace. Please enjoy the love you have received in your life from those who have been there for you and with you.

To the men who haven’t stepped up: your kids need you. Children or adult. It’s never too late to try. Sure, you’ll have some making up and catching up to do. So what if you can’t provide much financially? Don’t give yourself an out. There’s no excuse. At the end of the day, your kids just want to know that they matter to you. If you don’t show them, they’ll be trying to prove that they matter to someone else. It’s never.too.late.

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers, be it by blood or ,simply, in your hearts!

xoxo Kaisha