I’m over this whole “everyone gets a trophy for participating” situation.
Recently, in a classroom management course, I got the opportunity to discuss the topic of resilience in young people.
In this era young people are truly being robbed of opportunities to grow and become capable adults because people are not allowing them to lose or to fail. You learn nothing by screwing up and having all of your messes cleaned up for you.
Many people don’t know how to deal with the pain of defeat as adults, because they never had to deal with it as kids. Kids need to learn how to lose well. In the real world, you don’t get a trophy for showing up. You get a trophy for showing up and winning. And frankly, you lose way more than you win. It’s important to know how to lose; it keeps entitlement at bay.
It teaches you not to tie your worth solely into your accomplishments. It teaches you that losing does not make you a loser. It makes you a human. Humans make mistakes, and poor choices all the time. Humans fail at things constantly. Humans who are good losers learn to take those failures and use them as lessons for improvement. Losing teaches you how to bounce back.