No more Mr. Nice Guy

There comes a time in your life when you have to learn to say “No”.
I’ve struggled with this for the longest time. I hate letting people down. I hate hurting people’s feelings. I hate feeling like the bad guy.
BUT, I’m learning to get over it. Just this week, I’ve said “No” to two requests. It wasn’t because I was incapable of fulfilling the tasks at hand. It was because I’ve been preaching so much about moving in the direction of your dreams and getting focused and it was time for me to practice what I preach.

I literally got down on my knees and prayed for wisdom and focus. There’s no need to pray about things and then act as if you haven’t received them. So, I decided to put my faith into action and voilá! Things have changed for me.

It’s very important to realize how valuable time is. It’s nearly the only thing that can’t be replaced, regained, or repaired. If other people don’t respect your time, you don’t have time for them. If spending time with/for other people leads you away from the path to wherever it is you’re trying to get, then you don’t have time for them. This is why saying “No” is okay sometimes. I’m focused. I can only afford to participate in things that nurture me and help me grow. Anything else is extra and I get to choose what I participate in.

Lo and behold, the people I turned down did not die. The world did not stop revolving. They went on merrily with their lives. I don’t know whether or not they’re harboring resentment or animosity. But that’s none of my business *sips tea*. All I know is, I feel empowered for showing myself the respect I deserve.
Xoxo Kaisha

#empowered #justsayno #nomeansno

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5 thoughts on “No more Mr. Nice Guy

  1. Lord knows how UNCOMFORTABLE I get when I tell someone ‘no’. But it comes with time. It is a process to realize that all those fears that come with saying no is in your head. I’m learning with you. You just reminded me that I can keep saying ‘no’

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