I’m back from vacation! It was fun while it lasted, but I missed my beloved blogosphere. Now, back to business.

I read an article on Elite Daily that listed a bunch of reasons as to why you should move to a new city where you don’t know anyone. They gave a great list of things and possibilities for moving to a new city. As I completed the list, a thought struck me. I realized that I had done nearly everything on it!

I’ve made new friends, I’ve learned to enjoy myself-by myself, I’ve reinvented myself, cut my hair. I’ve learned to conquer my fears, I’ve developed tremendously. I’ve learned to stand on my own two feet, and my comfort zone has taken on new horizons of its own. These are the things the article suggested will take place when you move to a city where you don’t know anyone. While that theory is cute and all, I beg to differ.

Everyone won’t be afforded the opportunity (for one reason or another) to pick up and  move to a whole new city. There’s nothing wrong with picking up and moving. At some point in your life, you probably should. Change is good. However, I don’t want people living under the false pretense that you have to move to achieve these things.

In fact, that’s where the problem lies. The belief that we have to wait for something drastic to happen before we can make the best of our lives is the very reason why we can’t/won’t do the things on that list. As I said, I’ve done all those things without having to move across the country. These aren’t things that happen exclusively when you move. These are things that happen when you grow up, and free yourself of the constraints that others have placed on you. These things happen when you stop using fear as an excuse to wallow in mediocrity or complacency.

Your environment only plays so much of a role in the choices you make as an adult. You have the power to change your life. If that means you need to fly the coop, then by all means spread those wings, hon. But don’t feel stuck just because you can’t physically remove yourself from where you are. If you change your mind, you will change your life even if you can’t change your environment. Make sure you’re making the time and effort to develop yourself right where you are, instead of waiting and wishing and wanting to be somewhere else.

xoxo Kaisha

P.S. How was your weekend?