I don’t need to tell you how easy it is to get caught up in this social media stuff. All the pretty pics, and filters, scenic vacays, and magic breast lifts can easily get into your head and make you question yourself if you let it.
I know I’ve gone through it. I’ve been trying to find my voice and my space as a blogger when so many other people are doing it and there’s been more than a few times that I’ve thought I need to post this because I saw someone I want to be like do it. The truth of the matter is, I don’t. I love the quote:
You are you. That is your power.
I’m not going to get ahead by trying to be like everyone else. I’m going to dominate my lane by doing what is authentic to me. I am not naïve to the fact that in the age of the internet, it’s important to keep up with certain trends and, depending on your end goal, certain algorithms, but it’s even more important to find a way to do that authentically.
Right now the whole #goals thing is trending, but it’s important to make sure you’re setting and being your own #goals. Anyone can get the Afterlight app and post pretty pictures. But that’s all they are. Pictures. Snapshots of single moments in time. They don’t tell the whole story. Anyone can post a pic with their husband in matching sneakers, but few will tell you that shortly thereafter they got in a fight and stopped speaking to each other. Anyone can post a pic of their adorable kids, but may not tell you that that same afternoon they spent an hour locked in the bathroom crying because being a toddler mom is more draining than anything they’ve experienced. Anyone can post a pic of them in their cap and gown at graduation but they may not tell you that they had to retake statistics twice to qualify to graduate. Entrepreneurship looks real cute when you can set your own hours until those hours turn out to be 24/7 and you’re still having to crash on your homegirl’s couch because you can’t make rent yet.
Does that make the pictures any less beautiful? Of course not. But it’s also not fair or healthy to compare ALL of your life to the snippets that others choose to show you. And they’re not wrong for showing you the pretty parts. They don’t owe you anything. You do, however, owe it to yourself to make sure that you are creating your own #goals. You owe it to yourself to create the life YOU really want. If you like to travel, do it for you. If you like to stay at home, make it beautiful. If you want to be an entrepreneur, do it because you have a product or service to offer the world and that is what your heart is probing you to do. If you want to work a 9-5 and invest until you can retire a millionaire, then show up at the job on time (working on this one lol) and kill it every day. Whatever you do, just make sure they are YOUR #goals and not someone else’s.